A New Room in My House

September 14, 2011

To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am.

Those who marry will have worldly troubles, and I would spare you that.

The unmarried…is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord.

I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.

So then he who marries…does well, and he who refrains from marriage will do even better.

(1 Corinthians 7:8, 28, 32, 35, 38)

With all the needed emphasis on marriage in our day, we may be in danger of overlooking another good gift from God: intentional singleness for the sake of Christ.  I’ve nodded at this gift in the past and quickly moved on; my sense is that most of us have done the same.  But surely this option should be held out to the unmarried in our churches.  It should be spoken of in our pulpits and classrooms and around our kitchen tables.  It should be commended as a God-glorifying possibility to be weighed carefully by anyone who is unmarried.

In pondering intentional singleness in 1 Corinthians 7, it feels like God has broken open the side of my doctrinal house and added a new room.  More square footage, more windows, more space to move, more sunlight to give warmth — I’m certain the Lord actually means for some people to enter and enjoy.



I’m excited about Andrew Peterson’s next album “Counting Stars”.  One of the things I love about Peterson is that he embraces a comprehensive, realistic, poetic view of all of life’s pleasures and pains. Here is the first video from his forthcoming album. It’s a song called “Dancing in the Minefield” and it’s about the joys and trials of marriage. Enjoy.

We’ve recently heard two messages on what the Bible teaches us about God’s design for men and women, how male and female are intended to relate to one another, and a profile of how the scriptures describe a masculine man and a feminine woman. If you haven’t yet had a chance to listen to one or both of these messages, you can check them out here.

Volumes have been written, and hundreds of sermons have been preached on these important issues.  So it goes without saying that, at best, these sermons could only serve to jump-start what we hope is a healthy dialogue about biblical masculinity and femininity. As a result we are hosting a Q&A on Sunday evening June 13 at Connection. This will be a good opportunity for us to respond to the teaching of God’s Word together, as well as discuss how to apply the truth of God’s Word in practical ways in our lives.

You can submit a question in one of three ways. All questions should be submitted by midnight on Saturday June 12.

  1. Text message your question to 313-3223.
  2. Email your question to amartin@concord-baptist.org
  3. Submit a question in the comment section of this blog.

I’m eager to hear how you’ve been processing this short sermon series, and even more eager to see us grow in maturity as godly men and women by the power of the Spirit and the freedom of the Gospel.

Valentine’s Day

February 11, 2010

Kevin DeYoung has a great little post about Valentine’s Day (why is it capitalized?), particularly in his advice to married couples. I couldn’t help but laugh out loud when I read the following regarding pursuing your wife:

Words are wonderful, but pursuit may be even more powerful. Now listen, guys, don’t get all weird and stalker-like. Remember, you should pursue her as she likes to be pursued, not as you do.

DeYoung has a quirky, tell-it-like-it-is sense of humor that I absolutely resonate with deep in my bones. Maybe you didn’t find it as funny. Nonetheless, check out the whole post. It short, instructive and encouraging.

Rarely do men talk about how they ought to prepare themselves [for marriage] — in their study, in their work ethic, in their behavior.  When they do talk about it, they talk a lot about how their wives will have to do this or that.  When this is the case, young men should knock it off and grow up.

(Doug Wilson, Future Men, 170)